Kindness is one of the essential characteristics of God. If God is kind towards His children, as mothers we need to cultivate intentional kindness toward our children. Let us focus on three Bible verses on kindness for moms that can help us be better mothers.
Intentional, faithful motherhood is hard. It is hard because as we seek to raise godly children we because painfully aware of our own shortcomings and sinfulness. We realize that the same lessons our children need to learn, we need to learn at a deeper level for ourselves as well.
In a previous article, I shared 11 Effective Bible Verses to Teach Kids Kindness. This article talks about God’s character of kindness and then shares verses to use with our children to cultivate kindness.
We assume good mothers are kind. Yet, when we study the kindness of God, we will realize that we have to go deeper in our compassion to reflect godly kindness.
Kindness Lesson #1 Train Mothers to be Kind
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5 ESV
This is the first verse we are going to wrestle with in exploring Bible verses on kindness for moms. Do mothers have to be trained to be kind? In the book of Titus, instructions are given to older women and younger women. Instructions are also given to older men and younger men.
The older women are to train the young women, who are wives and mothers, in various virtues. They are to be trained in how to love their husbands and children. The young women are to be trained in how to be kind.
Does love and kindness not come naturally?
Well, no. Naturally, we are sinners. It from the Lord that we learn who real love looks like. It is from the Lord that we learn what true kindness looks like.
The kindness of the world are actions that help others in order to help ourselves. Worldly kindness helps others if we think it will help us eventually as well.
Kindness Lesson #2 The Teaching of Kindness is the Goal of Wise Mothers
“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26 ESV
This is the second verse we are going to wrestle with in exploring Bible verses on kindness for moms. This second verse is part of a well-known passage for Christian women.
The infamous Proverbs 31 woman. She is the idealized woman of the Bible that Christian woman who set a bar that Christian woman struggle to attain. Here we are just focusing on one verse of her description.
Her mouth opens with wisdom. When it opens what does she say? The Proverbs 31 woman speaks kindness.
The teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She doesn’t just speak kindness; she is teaching others to be kind.
There are so many things that as mothers we try to teach our children. We worry if we have taught them everything and if there is something that we have overlooked. When we think about what are the most important things to teach our children – kindness is at the top of the list.
“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Michal 6:8
The big three virtues that God requires of us are justice, kindness, and humility. We can get overwhelmed with all the things as Moms. We can be faithful mothers, if we parent with justice, kindness, and humility.
Kindness Lesson #3 – Be a Kindhearted Mother
“A kindhearted woman gains honor, but ruthless men gain only wealth.” Proverbs 11:16 NIV
This is the third verse we are going to wrestle with in exploring Bible verses on kindness for moms. How much of your day as a mom is spent on correcting your children and disciplining them? Some days I am worn out from trying to keep my kids from something that will hurt themselves and keeping them from hurting each other.
The Mean Mom feels like my main job description some days. I don’t want to be the mean mom, I want to have a loving relationship with my kids. I also know that I am entrusted with teaching them self-discipline and nurturing godly behavior.
Does being a kindhearted mother mean being a pushover?
God is kindhearted and God is no pushover. God is consistent, firm, and loving in His discipline of us, his children. As mothers, we are calling to strive to parent like God.
In my sinfulness, I can seek to correct or discipline to make my life better in the moment. Perhaps, I just want peace or I am self-conscious about what others think about my child’s behavior.
God always disciplines us with the big picture in mind. God’s discipline is never selfish, nor it is it ever withheld because He can’t be bothered. God is consistent and persistent is shaping our hearts to be more like His.
As mothers, we need to have this kindhearted persistence in our mothering. We need to guard our energy through sleep, self-care, and boundaries so that we can show up with loving persistence to guard and guide our children each day. When we are tired, worn-out, or burnt out – our discipline can be harsh rather than implemented in love.
Kindheartedness is not weak. Kindheartedness is not permissive. Sometimes as moms, we let things go because we feel defeated. Instead, kindheartedness is intentional, loving, persistence guiding of our children.
Why be a kindhearted mother?
We are called to be kindhearted mothers because the writer of Proverbs tells us that it will bring honor. When the Bible speaks of honor it means to value, esteem or respect.
By exercising biblical kindness with our children, we will be more likely to earn their respect and obedience than with discipline that is exercised without deep love and consistency. Biblical kindness is not weakness but rather will result in a stronger relationship with our children.
A Call to Kindhearted Mothering
As mothers, we are called to teach our children obedience. The attitude that we use in caring out that call can make all the difference in that journey for ourselves and our children. These three Bible verses on kindness for Moms push us to deeply love the way God loves.
Embrace the call to practice godly kindness and persistence in shaping your children’s hearts. Let the teaching of kindness be a focus on your lips and in your home. Let your kindness draw your children closer to God and equip them to be a gospel light to others.
The voice behind FaithfulMotherhood.com is Jyn. She is a veteran homeschool mom of three. More than just a pastor’s wife, she holds a Master of Divinity degree and has served in church leadership for over 20 years. Her passion is equipping parents to live out their calling as the number one faith influencer for their children. She longs to see moms empowered by God’s Word and transferring that love to their children through daily Bible study and family devotions.