What restores your soul when you feel worn out from mothering and homeschool?
Motherhood is physical, emotional, and spiritual labor. A mother’s work is never done and we are always on call. It can be exhausting. You need some great ideas for self-care for homeschool moms. Sometimes I feel like I am trying to keep dozens of plates spinning in the air. My mind is continually interrupting with questions:
- Is the laundry done?
- Do the dishes in the dishwasher need run?
- Is the oldest child on track with their schoolwork for the day?
- The youngest is quiet…what are they up to??!
- Is the middle child on task? Are they doing enough?
- Oh, crud! It is almost lunchtime. Do we have food for lunch?
- Do I need to set out something to thaw for supper?
We can rush through our day, and then wonder what we did all day. We spend our day helping others work and play. We labor at the repetitive tasks of cooking, laundry, and cleaning with no real sense of accomplishment because there isn’t an end or a pause to these tasks.
How do we pause? How do we take a break before we are broken? When we are worn out, what do we do as homeschool moms to practice self-care? What can we do to nurture our restore our spirit?
19 Ideas – Self-care for Homeschool Moms
Self-Care Tip #1 Make time for Quiet Time. We need to abide in God’s Word and to connect with God. All our strength, our purpose, our identity come from our relationship with God.
Self-Care Tip #2 Gratitude List – Take 3 minutes. Set the timer. List all the good things going on right now in your life. List all the things you are grateful for in your life. Post the list where you can see it. Add to the list tomorrow.
Self-Care Tip #3 Send the kids outside. Get a quite house by sending your kids outside. Kids need to be outside in God’s creation to explore and to play. They need exercise and fresh air. You can use this time to enjoy some quiet. Or, you can get outside too. We all need outdoor time.
Self-Care Tip #4 You need to go outside! We all need outdoor time. Leave the noise of the house, and you can sneak out with a cup of coffee or some chocolate! Sometimes my kids get up too early. When I am not ready to talk yet or haven’t finished my prayer time, then I sneak outside to enjoy the quiet. (I am snuck out to the car in the garage before when it was too cold too!)
Self-Care Tip #5 Take 30 minutes to do something YOU love. I remember bragging once that I was too busy for hobbies. You may not be able to have a formal hobby. I can’t quilt right now in this season of life, but I can do other things I enjoy like reading and writing. You NEED to find something that you can do for just you.
Alone Time Self-Care Ideas for the Homeschool Mom
Self-Care Tip #6 Have Dad take the kids shopping. I was at home the other day with no one else there. It was an eerie and weird experience. Being away from the house is good – but to be able to sit on my couch, in my house, and be quiet brought such deep stillness to my soul.
Self-Care Tip #7 Go shopping yourself without the kids. Sometimes we desire to have all of the homemaking chores don,e so that when your husband comes home, the family can spend all of their time with him. Yet, sometimes you are a better wife and mother if you have some time to yourself. Going grocery shopping by yourself is a readily justifiable way to have some time to yourself. As moms, we can feel guilty stepping away from our kids; grocery shopping by ourselves feels like a good compromise. Better yet, order your groceries online and then go sit in the parking lot for 15-30 minutes before your order is ready for pick-up. You won’t have been away from home any longer than if you had walked the store, but you will be able to enjoy the peace of your car.
Self-Care Tip #8 Go on a retreat. You are not a bad mom if you go on that church retreat overnight! What if your husband isn’t available that weekend? Plan your own retreat and stay at a local hotel overnight. Every year, I go on a silent retreat for three wonderful days. I used to feel guilty, but now I know that I am a better mom because of it!
Self-Care Tip #9 Enjoy a hot bath! Light some candles. Put some special additives in your bathwater. Put on some music and lock the door.
Treat Your Ears & Your Heart with these Homeschool Mom Self-Care Tips
Self-Care Tip #10 Put on Christian hymns or praise music in the house to start the day. The transformative power of music always amazes me. Feeling blue, put on some upbeat music. Feeling lonely? Put on some music that reminds you that God is always with you. Feeling grumpy and crabby? Put on some worship music. I have witnessed time and time again, how music will improve everyone attitude at home and result in less fighting and more focus. Between IHeartRadio and Spotify, I can quickly find music to get my heart on track.
Self-Care Tip #11 Listen to an audio bible while showering. The more scripture we can layer into our day, the more we can feed our soul.
Self-Care Tip #12 Get an audiobook. Never feel like you have time to read? Use your shower time to listen to a book. You can keep listening to that audiobook in snippets in the car as we shuttle our children around. Instead of dreading the driving, be excited to hear what is next in your book. If I can capture my children’s imagination with the book, I find their behavior for the car rides to be better too!
Self-Care Tip #13 Read or listen to something inspiring every day! Our world can wear us down. Find people that speak energy and hope to your heart. Find something that grows your mind or your spirit.
Self-Care Tip #14 Pick the right screen. Did you know you can watch a youtube video of a tropical location with the waves lapping the shore? Especially in the cold of winter, I love watching and hearing a warm, soothing beach.
Great Tips: Self-Care for Homeschool Moms
Self-Care Tip #15 Get some exercise! You don’t have to go to a fancy gym or get up before the kids. You don’t have to carve out 30 minutes. Even just a little bit of exercise helps your mood, your focus, and your health. Have a recess break and challenge your child to a Wii dance or sport for five minutes. Put on music and have a five-minute dance party. Pull up a 5 to 7-minute exercise video on Youtube. My kid love to join me on these. My easy favorite is Leslie Sansone’s Walk at Home Youtube videos. I love that it is the equivalent of one mile in 15 minutes, no bouncing around, and no challenging moves. When my constant presence is needed for my elementary child to finish their math, I can “walk” right near them to get something done while I help them stay at their task.
Self-Care Tip #16 Gather a texting prayer team. Homeschooling and mothering at home can be lonely. Maintaining friendships can be hard because it is challenging to get away from home. You are not alone. Gather a posse of other moms and send out short notes to one another. We don’t have to talk for an hour on the phone to support one another and to connect. What a blessing it is to have a group that you can text and just as for prayer for something specific for that day!
Self-Care Tip #17 Date Night. A night out can be expensive by the time you pay for dinner, a movie or event, and a babysitter. But in comparison, it is cheaper than a marriage counseling session! It can be easy to fall into seeing your primary identity as a mom, but the best thing for you and your children is a healthy marriage. Find another couple to partner with for date nights. If one couple has all the children at their house for the evening, the other couple can have their own house all to themselves. Bringing dinner home and renting a movie can make for a much cheaper date!
Self-Care Tip #18 Turn off the screens. Be honest, how much time are you on a screen? We can seek to connect to the outside world through our phones, our computers, and our televisions? But are we really connecting or escaping? Track your screen time and then get an app that blocks your access if needed. Too much screen time affects our energy and our mood.
Self-Care Tip #19 Be in the moment. “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34 As Moms, we can carry the burden of the world on our shoulders. We wonder if we have done enough, shared enough, taught enough, and shaped them enough. We have to remember that God is in charge, and we are not in charge. Be in the moment. Appreciate your children for where they are right now. Receive the gift that is this moment in time. Let the next day worry about itself and be still and know that God is working to bring about His glory.
Are You a Tired Homeschool Mom? Roots of our Tiredness
What is at the root of our tiredness? We can expect to be tired after the labor of our day, but is your fatigue more than that? Does your tiredness linger into the next day? Does it give what to exhaustion? Are you doing too much?
Whose expectations are you living under or trying to live up to? We live in a world that measures others for what they produce, not who they are as people. Even in as homemakers, we can get caught up in this cycle. We live in a world that also values busy and the quest for more and more. We are often too busy to build relationships and to enjoy life.
For ourselves and our children, we need to evaluate what is truly needed in our homes. What is God calling us to do? What margins and space is God calling us to create in our homes and in our lives as well? (Learn more about creating margin with Pruning Your Schedule.)
Rest is Self-Care for Homeschool Moms!
Rest is a gift from God for Busy Moms. We are created to labor, but we are also created to rest.
God said that we shall labor for six days, but on the seventh day, we shall rest. God created the world in six days, and then He rested. If God can rest, then you too can rest.
In fact, God commands us to rest. We need time to cease from our labors. Don’t feel guilty about sitting down and putting your feet up. How are you filling your cup so that you can be all that God has called you to be?
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The voice behind FaithfulMotherhood.com is Jyn. She is a veteran homeschool mom of three. More than just a pastor’s wife, she holds a Master of Divinity degree and has served in church leadership for over 20 years. Her passion is equipping parents to live out their calling as the number one faith influencer for their children. She longs to see moms empowered by God’s Word and transferring that love to their children through daily Bible study and family devotions.